“You have to find that place that brings out the human in you.the soul in you. the love in you.”
– R.M Drake
More often than not, when we’re trying to make someone feel less sad or less scared , we tell them “Go to your happy place!”…It’s a place that makes us ease up on our worries. To reduce stress levels and remind us that there’s good in the world too. For some, it’s a state of mind; like a favourite childhood memory or the memory of a place they spent the best moment in life. For others, it’s an actual destination where they whizz off to, when life takes a rough turn. For me? As I discovered today, at lunch hour, my happy place is the book store!
Trust me! I am as weirded out as you are! I mean, Food joints are totally on the list as well.. Food is life!!! But I would have never guessed that being in a bookstore had a positive effect on my mood. I never did pay much attention to the kind of tranquility that kind of facility provides me with. I guess that’s what I love about the journey of self-discovery; if you’re keen enough, you keep finding out something new about yourself each day.
I remember mentioning in Healer heal thyself that whenever I feel stressed out, I loose myself in a book or a series to just get away from reality for a while and sort things out. Well today was one of those days. I was woken up by my overbearing thoughts at 4 A.m this morning and the first place I went to? You guessed it! the kitchen! I had even made up my mind that I wouldn’t go to work, I would call in sick. I didn’t want to be the fire breathing dragon in the office!
However, I knew if I slept in, my mood would worsen. I would plunge deeper into self pity. That’s the thing about time out sometimes. You become so idle that all you can do is entertain those thoughts that gut each and every positive thought in your mind. So I decided to push on. Even if I didn’t feel like, even if I so badly wanted to just wallow in my misery, the only way I was going to win this battle is if I gave myself a shove and said, “hey buddy! let’s keep it moving!”
So let me fast forward to lunch hour, when I went to the bookstore, to check out if there were any new arrivals I could indulge in. It was such a calm feeling. Like a breath of fresh air . I was at home. I strolled around, perusing different works of literary art and at that moment, anything that bothered my mind was non existent. I was in my happy place!
I walked back to the office, eager to reach my desk and put down in writing, one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. I had discovered one more beautiful thing about myself in the midst of chaos. Right in the middle of what I would call, one of the worst days I’ve had this year, I found a safe haven. You never know what you’ll find if you give yourself that extra push.
Don’t get me wrong, happy places aren’t meant to make you forget or run away from your problems. I honestly believe there’s a difference between getting away for a while and running away. Happy places are only helpful if you can tell that difference. If you can use it to remind yourself that in the midst of all the chaos in the universe, there’s good in the world too. That you don’t have to wait on life to be all smooth and rosy, ( does that ever happen really?!) for you to be happy or at least experience some sort of joy. It reminds you the importance of living in the moment and appreciating it. So if you’re having a bad day love, I’d like you to ask yourself, What’s your happy place?
With Love and Light,